The Biggest Irony of Writing My Book on Family Discipleship

November 21, 2016
Behind the scenes with author Jaime Hampton

I’m just going to be real with you today, and divulge something that has haunted me throughout the entire process of writing and publishing my first book. It’s this:

As I wrote this book about the importance of family discipleship, I neglected my own family.

You could call it funny, ironic, even hypocritical. However you look at it, it’s probably not the way things should have happened. I realize there is a season for everything, but I felt convicted by the Holy Spirit – and sometimes condemned by the Enemy – when I let things get out of hand. Sock and underwear drawers remained empty, homeschool wasn’t given the energy and time my son deserved, and I allowed myself to get wrapped up in the book-writing process to the point where at times it became an idol.

As I wrote the final chapter of the book, my words resonated back to me in a way that could only have been God:


Now that you have all of this information about how to feed your family spiritually, what’s next? There are all kinds of self-help books out there, many spiritual in nature and many even filled with scripture. But James 1:22-25 says:

22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror 24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.

~ James 1:22-25

If we are simply gatherers of information, thinking that the act of gathering will somehow impart a change, we are deceiving ourselves.

Why do we look in the mirror? Some of you may spend hours gazing into the splendor of your reflection, but most of us only look when absolutely necessary! We check our hair, we check for blemishes, we look for food in our teeth or on our faces. What would happen if you had just eaten a nice big spinach salad, then glanced in the mirror only to find that you had green between several of your teeth? You know you’ve been there! You’d swish, floss, whatever was necessary to get the green out ASAP, right? Now think for a moment about what would happen if you looked in the mirror, gathered the information that you had spinach in your teeth, and just turned around and went back to life as usual without fixing it? You’d look pretty ridiculous each time you smiled, unless you had some loving friends willing to signal it was time for some floss when nobody else was looking. So what was the point of looking in the mirror, if you weren’t prepared to take action?

God’s Word is a mirror. It allows us to test ourselves against God’s standards, not the world’s. It would certainly be more comfortable if we were satisfied with the world’s standards, oblivious to the need for change. But if we take the time to look into the mirror of God’s Word, our blemishes and imperfections will be revealed, not for the purpose of shaming or condemning us-

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus

~ Romans 8:1

– but so that we can recognize what God wants from us (for our own good!) and turn around and do something about it. We may need to pick some spinach out of our teeth, or wipe some mud off of our cheek. Sometimes there are deep gashes, or blemishes that will take time and healing, but there is no wound too deep for Jehovah-rophe, the Almighty God who heals.1


I knew after writing this segment that I couldn’t just write about family discipleship, or even expound on what the Bible said. I couldn’t just read great books written by others – or even God’s Word – and think that it was worth the paper it was written on! Even Satan tried quoting scripture to Jesus as he tempted him in the wilderness. And believing what you read isn’t enough, either:

18 But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds. 19 You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder.

~ James 2:18-19 (NIV)

Ouch! Faith without action, or reading (or writing!) books without implementing life change – pointless. When I wrote my book, it didn’t come from expertise or mastery of family discipleship. I actually believe the Lord gave me this book first for my family, then for others. So I finished the last chapter of my book with a “40 Days of Feeding Your Family” challenge. It was first for me and my family, to help me put into practice the things God has been teaching me. I would love to invite you all to join me, if the area of spiritually feeding the children in your sphere of influence is an area you haven’t taken as much action as you’d like.

Visit my website,, for more information about my book, Malnourished: Equipping Parents to Battle Spiritual Poverty on the Home Front. Join my e-mail list to connect with me and others taking the “40 Days” challenge. I’ll be starting a Facebook group, and have been working on a companion Bible study to the book, so don’t miss out on updates!

Whether it’s family discipleship or some other area the Lord has been speaking to you about through books or his Word, join me in taking the biggest irony of writing my book and turning it into the biggest victory! Decide today to take action, and know that you are not alone. I would love to hear your prayer requests or specific areas you want to take action in the comments below.


Footnote: 1Jaime Hampton, Malnourished: Equipping Parents to Battle Spiritual Poverty on the Home Front, pp. 163-166.


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More about Jaime Hampton’s Book

Are you equipped for the battle?

There is an epidemic of spiritual poverty among today’s children. While some are starving to death, others are actually overfed yet malnourished, due to an abundance of ‘spiritual junk food’ in our western culture.

Using a solid Biblical foundation, Malnourished is a call to action, urging parents to take back their rightful place as the family’s primary provider of spiritual food. In this book, you will find:

  • An abundance of scripture to arm you for battle
  • A step-by-step plan for assessing, equipping, and discipling the children in your sphere of influence
  • A list of supplemental books, websites and assessments
  • The “40 Days of Feeding Your Family” challenge- an opportunity to put what you’ve learned into action

If you are tired of the status quo and ready to embark on a life-changing journey, put on your battle armor! You will come away from this book with a renewed passion to wage war on spiritual poverty, and will be blessed as you see God at work in you and in your family.

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About Jaime Hampton

Jaime HamptonJaime Hampton lives in Southcentral Alaska with her husband and three children. She has a passion for studying the Bible, and has been involved with ministry to children and youth for the last twenty years. She enjoys camping with her family, roasting (and drinking!) coffee, and the crazy life that comes with being a hockey mom. You can also connect with Jaime at

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  • Reply Nicole Kauffman November 21, 2016 at 11:41 am

    It takes great courage and humility to reflect on our own shortcomings and convictions and this post inspires me to do the same. This is a great example and reminder of the importance of listening to the convictions the Holy Spirit places on our hearts. So glad I stopped by 🙂

  • Reply Jaime Hampton November 21, 2016 at 12:44 pm

    Thank you so much for the encouraging words, Nicole. I love when our struggles (and even failures!) can encourage someone else. I’m so glad you stopped by too!
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  • Reply andi November 21, 2016 at 2:35 pm

    and that’s why it’s SO important to stay in the Word!

  • Reply Robbie @ Use Resources Wisely November 21, 2016 at 7:01 pm

    It’s humbling when the word strikes you the way it does. I’m glad you found your message you needed.
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    • Reply Jaime Hampton November 22, 2016 at 12:03 pm

      Me too, Robbie. It can sting to hear from the Lord about an area that needs refining, but it reminds me of Hebrews 12:11 : (New International Version) “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” He loves us too much to leave us in our sinful condition!
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  • Reply Amy Hagerup November 21, 2016 at 8:12 pm

    Thanks for being so honest, Jamie. I bet the book is wonderful. Good for you for being convicted about your own family discipleship while working away. I’m sure things are better now.

  • Reply María Hass November 22, 2016 at 1:27 am

    Thanks for the behind the scenes honesty. I think some projects absorb us more than we know they should. I think you’re wise enough to allow that to have been a season in your life and not a lifestyle. God bless!

    • Reply Jaime Hampton November 22, 2016 at 12:08 pm

      Thank you so much, Maria! Those are words of wisdom. I feel like I could have been working the same amount on another project in another season and had total permission from God to do so. Finding balance is hard, especially when there are no hard and fast rules. But I think that is how we are trained to hear the Shepherd’s voice. I am so thankful he cares enough to make his voice known!
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  • Reply Heather Hart November 22, 2016 at 11:13 am

    Thanks for stopping in and sharing the behind the scenes with us, Jaime! I’ve downloaded your book and can’t wait to start reading.
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  • Reply Florence Ukpabi November 23, 2016 at 1:50 pm

    Congratulations on completing your book, and what a takeaway lesson to end on!
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  • Reply Kristi November 23, 2016 at 2:12 pm

    This reminds me of what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 9:26-27 – “So I run with purpose in every step. I am not just shadowboxing. I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should. Otherwise, I fear that after preaching to others I myself might be disqualified.”

    We do have to be careful when encouraging others that we are doing what we should be doing as well. The Holy Spirit is definitely wonderful at resteering us when we get off course. We’ve all been there. It’s whether or not we allow ourselves to be steered back in the right direction that is most important. So thankful you wrote something that is a good challenge to our spiritual lives!

  • Reply Jaime Hampton November 27, 2016 at 7:31 pm

    “I am not just shadowboxing” – I love that, Kristi! What translation is that?
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