Life Isn’t Fair… So What Do We Do About It?

October 31, 2019
Life isn't fair

“If you get home and I’m not there, your work shirt is in the dryer and I am at the hospital.”

Life isn’t fair. That’s the thought that crossed my mind as soon as I sent that text to my son yesterday. It was as if a wave of grief washed over me.

Grief that this was our normal. That they were so used to me being at the hospital they wouldn’t be concerned.

Grief that I wasn’t there for my kids. That I wouldn’t be there to hug them and ask them about their day.

Grief for all that my migraines had stolen from our family. This wasn’t fair to them. But then again, everyone knows life isn’t fair.

And in my kids’ defense, they have handled the changes in our life really well. I have never heard them complain.

Complaining When Life Isn’t Fair

I love the way the beginning of The Passion Translation words Philippians 2:14. It says, “Live a cheerful life, without complaining …”

That verse has been on my mind a lot this week. Mainly because I’ve been stuck in the “Life isn’t fair” mode. I’m nowhere near as good at not complaining about my migraines as my kids.

The phrase, “My head hurts.” comes out of my mouth a lot.

And it’s been a rough week. A really rough week.

I even emailed a friend this morning because I just needed to talk to someone who understood what I was going through.

But what it really all comes down to is that even when life isn’t fair, when life is hard, we have to choose what to do with that.

Ironically, my post, Finding Joy in The Trials of Life was published over on Kingdom Bloggers this morning. Talk about timely. In it, I share three keys to finding joy in the trials of life. I’d love it if you would hop on over and check it out.

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Finding Joy In The Trials Of Life

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  • Reply Liberty November 1, 2019 at 10:30 am

    My sister struggles with migraines also, but does not go to the hospital. I’m sorry you have to go through this. Visiting from the Grace and Truth link up.
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    • Reply Heather Hart November 1, 2019 at 2:42 pm

      Thanks, Liberty. Migraines are a lot more common than many people realize. It’s the third most common disease in the world.

  • Reply Michele Morin November 1, 2019 at 12:52 pm

    So sorry, Heather, for your pain and discouragement.
    Thank you for living the I Corinthians model of putting your pain to work in the business of comforting others.
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    • Reply Heather Hart November 1, 2019 at 2:50 pm

      Thanks for stopping in, Michele. My hope is that no matter how much it hurts, I can keep pointing to Jesus. I’m not always very good at that, but thankfully we serve a gracious God.
      Heather Hart recently posted…Living in Light of the Gospel

  • Reply Valerie Riese November 1, 2019 at 10:06 pm

    That they were so used to me being at the hospital they wouldn’t be concerned…. Literally made me laugh out loud in my living room all by myself and scared the guinea pig! Same in my house…

    It’s ok to complain sometimes and we are here to support one another. Jesus hears our cries too. He’s got big shoulders and it’s ok to yell at Him and tell Him how unfair it is – and then let Him hold you.

    • Reply Heather Hart November 2, 2019 at 7:36 pm

      Right. When someone tells you they are at the hospital it’s normal for people to be concerned. Just, not at my house. At my house, mom’s head hurts, and it’s not abnormal for her to go to the hospital for treatment. I never dreamed this would be my life. But I still love my kids. Honestly, I have it pretty good, all things considered. My head just hurts.
      Heather Hart recently posted…Looking To Jesus & Resting In His Embrace

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